Considering a child’s wishes in divorce or separation

By February 4, 2022Blog

Separation and divorce is hard for everyone involved, but especially children. When deciding on parenting matters, like living arrangements and visitation, the family court will always prioritise the ‘best interests’ of the child – which may or may not align with what they want.

How does the family court determine what is in the ‘best interests’ of the child?

The court has two key priorities when it comes to the child’s best interests:

  • protecting them from harm (physical, emotional and psychological), and;
  • their need to have a meaningful relationship with both of their parents.

The child’s wishes and views will be taken into consideration by the courts, along with other factors such as their age and maturity. While there is no ‘set age’ that determines the weight the court gives to a child’s wishes in divorce, separation and parenting matters, generally speaking the views of older children are given greater weight than those of younger children.

 

How are a child’s wishes shared with the court?

There are different ways that a child can share their views to the court, but in most cases it is through an independent party such as a:

  • Family Consultant (typically a psychologist or social worker) who meets with and interviews the child and other members of the family to prepare a Family Report.
  • Independent children’s lawyer who may be appointed by the court to represent the child’s best interests.

 

How does it usually play out in court?

Every parenting matter that goes before the courts has its own unique set of considerations and circumstances, which are used to determine what is in the best interests of the child. These real life cases help to illustrate how things can play out.

 

Jeffs & Marshall (No.5) [2020] FCCA 2893

This case involved two children, aged seven and eleven. They didn’t want to see their father and refused to spend supervised time with him. In ruling, the court placed little weight on their wishes because in its view:

    • The seven year old was too young to express a view.
    • The eleven year old hadn’t been supported in developing a relationship with her father.
    • At the time of the family report interview, the eleven year old was observed as being hyper vigilant not to get the mother into trouble.
    • There were issues of risk because there was a history of violence, drug issues and neglect on both sides.
    • There was influence by the mother.
    • There had been a lack of opportunity for the children to develop a relationship with their father.

Spence & Greco [2015] FCCA 676

In this case the fourteen year old child had had irregular contact with his father. The mother had given evidence that he did not want to spend time with his father. While he also expressed that he did not wish to spend time with his father, he told the Family Consultant he would be prepared to go to a soccer match with him once a month and see how he finds that time with him.

In ruling, the court placed significant weight on the child’s views because of his age and the fact that the Family Report produced by the Family Consultant noted he was of average maturity for his age and detailed his nuanced views, which contrasted with the mother’s evidence.

Bondelmonte v Bondelmonte & Anor. [2017] HCA 8

In this case the two children, aged thirteen and fourteen, went to New York with their father for a two week holiday. While there they decided that they wanted to stay and live permanently in New York with their father.

When ruling on the matter, the court gave little weight to the children’s wishes and ordered them to remain living in Australia. This was primarily because they had travelled to New York for a holiday, which was allowed within the parenting order, not the purpose of relocation.

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